The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

50 Life Changing Things I’ve Learned in 50 years

As I celebrate reaching the half-century mark, I find myself embracing the profound wisdom that life's diverse experiences have bestowed upon me. These invaluable lessons range from the necessity of embracing mistakes as stepping stones for growth to realizing the insignificance of others' opinions in comparison to living in alignment with one's values. Understanding the depths of human pain, adapting to the unpredictable nature of life, and the transformative potential of inner work have profoundly shaped my perspective.
This journey has taught me the significance of compassion, the necessity of self-care, and the nuanced truths that weave through the fabric of our lives. I invite you to partake in this reflection on your unique path and wisdom, for it's in these diverse experiences that we find our truest selves. Thank you for being an integral part of this enriching journey!
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Tired of Playing Small in your business and in life? Do this

Welcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast, where we're breaking through the barriers that hold us back in both life and business. I'm your host, Jen Barnes, and today's episode is diving into a topic crucial for ADHD women striving for success but finding themselves stuck. We'll uncover the patterns that keep us playing small and struggling to invest in our businesses and ourselves.
For years, I've seen a common thread among women—especially those with ADHD—struggling to prioritize themselves. This isn't just a matter of lacking knowledge or tools; it's about the internal barriers that prevent us from implementing what we know. We've grown up under criticism and pressure, conditioned to prioritize peacekeeping over pursuing our true potential.
Throughout this episode, we'll explore the layers of people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and the profound impact of not trusting ourselves. We'll uncover the fears that hold us back and the internal dialogue that perpetuates this cycle. It's not just about understanding these patterns; it's about navigating them, challenging their validity, and stepping into our power. Join me in unpacking these layers and breaking free from the limitations that hinder our growth.
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3 Things You Might be Doing that Unintentionally Hold Your Business Back

Join me on this podcast journey where we navigate the complexities of living with ADHD, exploring the deep impact of excessive criticism and correction on our lives. As someone who's experienced this firsthand, I dive into the fear of putting ourselves out there, stemming from the relentless scrutiny we've faced. We'll unpack the aftermath of unaddressed emotional wounds, stemming from early encounters with criticism and shame, which can resurface in moments of critique, leading to emotional turbulence and shutdown.
Together we explore the intricacies of these experiences, shedding light on the challenges of navigating a world where criticism feels overwhelming. Join me as we strive to understand, heal, and empower ourselves in a society that often misunderstands the emotional turmoil behind ADHD and the impact of relentless correction on our well-being.
 
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3 Hidden Reasons You Might Be Stuck in Your Business

Hey, it's Jen, and today's podcast dives deep into the hurdles holding back ADHD women in entrepreneurship. I'll uncover three major obstacles rooted in overwhelming feelings, especially fear, which often halts action. This fear, intertwined with our limiting beliefs, forms another barrier, making us feel like we don't have enough time or that our ADHD limits us.
Moreover, our dysregulated nervous systems hinder focus and productivity. These challenges, deeply tied to our personal experiences and past criticism, impact both our professional and personal lives. Join me for a transformative three-day live event starting December 28th, where we'll unpack these layers. It's not just about business; it's about self-discovery and empowerment. Let's build a supportive community—share this podcast with others who might resonate. Thanks for tuning in, and I can't wait to connect with you soon. Take care!
 
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Stop Killing Your Content and Actually Reach Your Audience

Jen Barnes here, bringing you another episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast. Today's focus isn't just about ADHD; it's diving into the entrepreneurial aspects of being an ADHD woman entrepreneur. We often struggle with creating content, wondering what to share, and how to generate quality ideas.
Before diving into the main point, let's talk about what top-notch content requires. For me, it's all about curiosity, observing my audience, understanding their challenges, and offering solutions based on my experiences. It's about self-awareness and creativity—yes, even if you don't consider yourself an artist, creativity is integral to what we do.
However, sometimes our creativity gets stifled, and there's a big culprit behind that—stress. Not just occasional stress, but chronic stress, especially in the entrepreneurial hustle. Stress triggers our fight-or-flight response, hindering our ability to be in the social engagement state where creativity thrives.
Let's dive into the episode to learn a little more.
 
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Get out of the Content Desert - Create Unique, Rich, and Meaningful Content

Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I'm Jen Barnes, your guide to embracing your neurodivergence and thriving as an ADHD woman entrepreneur. Today, let's explore a critical aspect of entrepreneurship through an ADHD lens – creating content to drive traffic to your business.
Content is our gateway to connect with and assist our audience. It's how we showcase our expertise, offer value, and guide people towards solutions. But finding original, meaningful content that resonates isn't always easy.
 
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Kickin’ Ass through the Holiday Hustle: How to Actually Have Fun

In this episode, I'm diving deep into holiday stress, especially for us ADHD women entrepreneurs. You know, this time of year gets crazy, and it's crucial to figure out how to make it enjoyable for ourselves. I'm not just here to give you the usual advice; I'm talking about tapping into our specific ADHD skill sets to rock this holiday season. From overcoming those sneaky limiting beliefs about what the holidays "should" be to aligning our priorities with our values, I'm all about making it work uniquely for us. Let's embrace authenticity because, hey, you are the magnet that attracts your tribe. Join me as we navigate the holidays with our own flair, creating a more fulfilling and joyous season, one that truly resonates with who we are. Cheers to celebrating in our authentic, ADHD-awesome way!
 
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Why You Can’t Stop Procrastinating and What to Do about It

In this episode of "The Self Love Woman Way," we dive into the common struggle of procrastination and explore a unique perspective on addressing it. Rather than relying solely on strategies and tips, we unpack five deeper issues that often contribute to procrastination. These include alignment with core values and your deepest "why," setting the stage for success through self-care, mindful environment, and optimal timing, and considering whether tasks can be delegated. We also delve into the impact of big feelings, such as fear of failure, success, criticism, judgment, and rejection, and how they can hinder your progress. This insightful discussion encourages listeners to introspect, prioritize, and overcome procrastination on a deeper level.
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Break Free from the ADHD Cycle of Hyperfunctioning and Crashing

Welcome to another special episode of The Self-Loved Woman Way! I'm thrilled to have you here today as we dive into a topic that hits close to home for many—hyperfunctioning ADHD women. Now, I know I often call my episodes special, but today's discussion is truly unique. We're shining a spotlight on a group of extraordinary individuals who work tirelessly, pushing their limits, and yet, find themselves exhausted.
Join me as we explore the world of hyperfunctioning ADHD women—the high performers who, despite dealing with ADHD, manage to get a staggering amount done. If you're nodding along, recognizing yourself in this description, then this episode is tailor-made for you. I'll share personal experiences from the first half of my life, where every ounce of energy was dedicated to elaborate systems and extra efforts just to function.
It's a journey many can relate to, where the external success often masks the internal struggles. We'll discuss the challenges of being high-functioning with ADHD, the misconceptions that arise, and the importance of acknowledging our own struggles. So, if you've ever felt the weight of hyperfunctioning with ADHD, or if you're curious to learn more about this often-overlooked aspect of ADHD, stay tuned. This episode is for you.
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Two Patterns Most ADHD Women Have That Get in the Way of Getting Stuff Done

In this episode, I dive into two common patterns that I often see in ADHD women: perfectionism and people-pleasing. These patterns can be significant barriers to achieving my goals, especially in my business endeavors. I've personally experienced these tendencies at different times in my life, and I want to share my insights with you.
Perfectionism, as I've noticed, is a defense mechanism that many ADHD individuals, including myself, tend to adopt in order to avoid criticism and judgment. It can hinder my ability to start and finish projects, and I've realized the importance of shifting towards a growth mindset that views mistakes as valuable learning opportunities. I've also found that striving for 100 percent perfection often leads to inaction, and that's something I want to change.
On the other hand, people-pleasing has been another pattern that I've struggled with. It often results in burnout, feelings of loneliness, and a perception that I care more about others than they care about me. Beneath both of these patterns lies a deep-seated belief that I can't handle criticism, judgment, or disappointment from others. To overcome this, I've been working on connecting with my highest self and practicing mindfulness to get to know my inner selves better. The goal is to build self-trust and let go of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies.
I hope you find this episode insightful and practical, as I share my personal experiences and strategies to help those with ADHD overcome these patterns and lead a more authentic and fulfilling life. 
 
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