The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way is a podcast for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs who are ready to overcome the inner and outer challenges of ADHD and break free from neurotypical rules and expectations to create a business that works with their ADHD brain. Together we’ll explore our unique ADHD brains and how to work with them effectively, with ADHD-specific tools and strategies so that you can create and build a meaningful and prosperous business (and life) you love. The Self-Loved Woman Way is hosted by Jen Barnes, MSW, LICSW, RYT500, TCTSY-F, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist turned ADHD Entrepreneur coach and educator. She has a passion for working with women who are late-diagnosed or self-diagnosed ADHD as well as those who are ADHD adjacent. Prior to becoming a clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in complex trauma, Jen was an actuarial analyst for nearly four years for a large Minnesota-based company working in retirement plans. She has a Bachelors of Science in Mathematics with a concentration in Actuarial Science and a minor in Computer Science, that started out as an accounting degree with numerous business courses. An entrepreneur herself, she owns and operates two business - one, a full time private psychotherapy practice (since 2014) and the other a Digital Business empowering ADHD women entrepreneurs to move beyond ADHD challenges and create a business that replaces their full time income in 12 months. Jen’s unique blend of education and experiences as an ADHD woman and psychotherapist coupled with her history and experience in business offers a special twist on navigating the world of entrepreneurship as an ADHD woman. Further, her expertise in serving women with complex trauma histories offering an additional, deeper layer to the work of overcoming the pain and even trauma of growing up ADHD in a world not designed for us. This podcast is a fantastic place to embrace your ADHD (yes, even the challenges), explore ADHD specific ways to work and live in this neurotypcial society, and learn ADHD specific strategies for creating and growing your own business so you can have the time and energy to do more of what you love.
Episodes
Friday Dec 15, 2023
3 Hidden Reasons You Might Be Stuck in Your Business
Friday Dec 15, 2023
Friday Dec 15, 2023
Hey, it's Jen, and today's podcast dives deep into the hurdles holding back ADHD women in entrepreneurship. I'll uncover three major obstacles rooted in overwhelming feelings, especially fear, which often halts action. This fear, intertwined with our limiting beliefs, forms another barrier, making us feel like we don't have enough time or that our ADHD limits us.
Moreover, our dysregulated nervous systems hinder focus and productivity. These challenges, deeply tied to our personal experiences and past criticism, impact both our professional and personal lives. Join me for a transformative three-day live event starting December 28th, where we'll unpack these layers. It's not just about business; it's about self-discovery and empowerment. Let's build a supportive community—share this podcast with others who might resonate. Thanks for tuning in, and I can't wait to connect with you soon. Take care!
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Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Stop Killing Your Content and Actually Reach Your Audience
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Jen Barnes here, bringing you another episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast. Today's focus isn't just about ADHD; it's diving into the entrepreneurial aspects of being an ADHD woman entrepreneur. We often struggle with creating content, wondering what to share, and how to generate quality ideas.
Before diving into the main point, let's talk about what top-notch content requires. For me, it's all about curiosity, observing my audience, understanding their challenges, and offering solutions based on my experiences. It's about self-awareness and creativity—yes, even if you don't consider yourself an artist, creativity is integral to what we do.
However, sometimes our creativity gets stifled, and there's a big culprit behind that—stress. Not just occasional stress, but chronic stress, especially in the entrepreneurial hustle. Stress triggers our fight-or-flight response, hindering our ability to be in the social engagement state where creativity thrives.
Let's dive into the episode to learn a little more.
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Friday Dec 01, 2023
Get out of the Content Desert - Create Unique, Rich, and Meaningful Content
Friday Dec 01, 2023
Friday Dec 01, 2023
Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I'm Jen Barnes, your guide to embracing your neurodivergence and thriving as an ADHD woman entrepreneur. Today, let's explore a critical aspect of entrepreneurship through an ADHD lens – creating content to drive traffic to your business.
Content is our gateway to connect with and assist our audience. It's how we showcase our expertise, offer value, and guide people towards solutions. But finding original, meaningful content that resonates isn't always easy.
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Wednesday Nov 22, 2023
Kickin’ Ass through the Holiday Hustle: How to Actually Have Fun
Wednesday Nov 22, 2023
Wednesday Nov 22, 2023
In this episode, I'm diving deep into holiday stress, especially for us ADHD women entrepreneurs. You know, this time of year gets crazy, and it's crucial to figure out how to make it enjoyable for ourselves. I'm not just here to give you the usual advice; I'm talking about tapping into our specific ADHD skill sets to rock this holiday season. From overcoming those sneaky limiting beliefs about what the holidays "should" be to aligning our priorities with our values, I'm all about making it work uniquely for us. Let's embrace authenticity because, hey, you are the magnet that attracts your tribe. Join me as we navigate the holidays with our own flair, creating a more fulfilling and joyous season, one that truly resonates with who we are. Cheers to celebrating in our authentic, ADHD-awesome way!
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Wednesday Nov 15, 2023
Why You Can’t Stop Procrastinating and What to Do about It
Wednesday Nov 15, 2023
Wednesday Nov 15, 2023
In this episode of "The Self Love Woman Way," we dive into the common struggle of procrastination and explore a unique perspective on addressing it. Rather than relying solely on strategies and tips, we unpack five deeper issues that often contribute to procrastination. These include alignment with core values and your deepest "why," setting the stage for success through self-care, mindful environment, and optimal timing, and considering whether tasks can be delegated. We also delve into the impact of big feelings, such as fear of failure, success, criticism, judgment, and rejection, and how they can hinder your progress. This insightful discussion encourages listeners to introspect, prioritize, and overcome procrastination on a deeper level.
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Thursday Nov 09, 2023
Break Free from the ADHD Cycle of Hyperfunctioning and Crashing
Thursday Nov 09, 2023
Thursday Nov 09, 2023
Welcome to another special episode of The Self-Loved Woman Way! I'm thrilled to have you here today as we dive into a topic that hits close to home for many—hyperfunctioning ADHD women. Now, I know I often call my episodes special, but today's discussion is truly unique. We're shining a spotlight on a group of extraordinary individuals who work tirelessly, pushing their limits, and yet, find themselves exhausted.
Join me as we explore the world of hyperfunctioning ADHD women—the high performers who, despite dealing with ADHD, manage to get a staggering amount done. If you're nodding along, recognizing yourself in this description, then this episode is tailor-made for you. I'll share personal experiences from the first half of my life, where every ounce of energy was dedicated to elaborate systems and extra efforts just to function.
It's a journey many can relate to, where the external success often masks the internal struggles. We'll discuss the challenges of being high-functioning with ADHD, the misconceptions that arise, and the importance of acknowledging our own struggles. So, if you've ever felt the weight of hyperfunctioning with ADHD, or if you're curious to learn more about this often-overlooked aspect of ADHD, stay tuned. This episode is for you.
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Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
Two Patterns Most ADHD Women Have That Get in the Way of Getting Stuff Done
Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
In this episode, I dive into two common patterns that I often see in ADHD women: perfectionism and people-pleasing. These patterns can be significant barriers to achieving my goals, especially in my business endeavors. I've personally experienced these tendencies at different times in my life, and I want to share my insights with you.
Perfectionism, as I've noticed, is a defense mechanism that many ADHD individuals, including myself, tend to adopt in order to avoid criticism and judgment. It can hinder my ability to start and finish projects, and I've realized the importance of shifting towards a growth mindset that views mistakes as valuable learning opportunities. I've also found that striving for 100 percent perfection often leads to inaction, and that's something I want to change.
On the other hand, people-pleasing has been another pattern that I've struggled with. It often results in burnout, feelings of loneliness, and a perception that I care more about others than they care about me. Beneath both of these patterns lies a deep-seated belief that I can't handle criticism, judgment, or disappointment from others. To overcome this, I've been working on connecting with my highest self and practicing mindfulness to get to know my inner selves better. The goal is to build self-trust and let go of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies.
I hope you find this episode insightful and practical, as I share my personal experiences and strategies to help those with ADHD overcome these patterns and lead a more authentic and fulfilling life.
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Thursday Oct 26, 2023
What We’ve Gotten Wrong About our ADHD and How to Change It
Thursday Oct 26, 2023
Thursday Oct 26, 2023
Hey there, it's Jen, and I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today. I want to dive headfirst into a topic that has captured my attention and the attention of so many ADHD women entrepreneurs out there. It's the elephant in the room, the challenge we face day in and day out – the struggle to consistently get things done. You know, without it feeling like we're expending every ounce of our precious energy just to convince ourselves to take action.
Now, this topic, it's not just a passing fancy. It's the one that keeps popping up in conversations with folks like you and me. It's the one that lights up the internet with likes and downloads whenever I touch on it. You've probably guessed it by now; it's the art of mastering productivity and consistency when you've got an ADHD brain.
But here's the thing: I genuinely believe that we've been given the wrong playbook. We've been fed the wrong advice, misled down a path that only leaves us feeling overwhelmed, confused, and still struggling to find our rhythm. That's why today, I want to unpack this challenge, tear down the misconceptions, and highlight the biggest mistake I see many ADHD women entrepreneurs making.
We're talking about trying strategy after strategy, tools galore, multiple task-tracking apps, time-tracking apps, calendars, programs...you name it. It's time to cut through the noise and discover the real secrets to unlocking your potential.
So, if you're ready to reclaim your focus, your time, and your energy, stay tuned, because we're about to redefine what it means to be a successful ADHD woman entrepreneur. It's time to rewrite the script, my friend. Let's get started!
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Saturday Oct 21, 2023
Saturday Oct 21, 2023
ADHD in Women - How to Move Beyond Pathology Towards Acceptance, Honoring, and Self-Love
In this episode, I’ll be addressing an often overlooked issue affecting women with ADHD. Many of us unknowingly subject ourselves to daily self-inflicted emotional distress while trying to fit into a world designed for neurotypical individuals. We’ll explore the root causes and discuss how early trauma, especially emotional and verbal abuse, can be just as impactful as more obvious forms of abuse. Our nervous system doesn’t distinguish between external threats and self-criticism, putting us in a constant fight-or-flight response. Instead of forcing ourselves into a neurotypical mold, we should aim to be authentic and enjoy life to maintain a healthy dopamine baseline, crucial for ADHD. Working with our inner critic is essential.
Rather than pushing them away, we should engage in a productive dialogue. It may take time, but it’s a necessary step in reducing self-criticism and self-inflicted trauma, allowing us to embrace our unique ADHD traits and lead more fulfilling lives.
Please share your thoughts in the comments, and if you’re not already following or subscribing, please do so to stay updated with our discussions.
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Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
How we ADHD Women Keep Ourselves Stuck and Small
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
In this episode, I'll be addressing an often overlooked issue affecting women with ADHD. Many of us unknowingly subject ourselves to daily self-inflicted emotional distress while trying to fit into a world designed for neurotypical individuals. We'll explore the root causes and discuss how early trauma, especially emotional and verbal abuse, can be just as impactful as more obvious forms of abuse.
Our nervous system doesn't distinguish between external threats and self-criticism, putting us in a constant fight-or-flight response. Instead of forcing ourselves into a neurotypical mold, we should aim to be authentic and enjoy life to maintain a healthy dopamine baseline, crucial for ADHD.
Working with our inner critic is essential. Rather than pushing them away, we should engage in a productive dialogue. It may take time, but it's a necessary step in reducing self-criticism and self-inflicted trauma, allowing us to embrace our unique ADHD traits and lead more fulfilling lives.
Please share your thoughts in the comments, and if you're not already following or subscribing, please do so to stay updated with our discussions. Thank you for tuning in.
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The Self-Loved Woman Way
WITH JEN BARNES
Welcome to The Self-Loved Woman Way podcast, where we embark on an exciting journey of embracing neurodivergence and empowering ourselves as individuals with ADHD. Join us as we challenge the conventional norms and discover innovative approaches to navigate through life with our unique minds.
In each episode, we delve into the captivating world of neurodivergence, celebrating our differences and uncovering the hidden strengths within our ADHD identities. Together, we'll explore strategies, tips, and tricks tailored to our ADHD way of thinking, helping us unlock our full potential and thrive in a world that often misunderstands us.
The Self-Loved Woman Way podcast offers a safe and supportive space for open reflection. We explore topics such as productivity hacks, organization techniques, self-care practices, and more, all designed to optimize our daily lives while embracing our authentic selves.
Through our conversations, we aim to empower listeners to love and embrace their neurodivergent identities unconditionally. No longer shall we view ADHD as a limitation but as a unique lens that grants us extraordinary perspectives and abilities. Together, we can revolutionize the way society perceives neurodivergence and create a world that celebrates the strengths and contributions of every individual.
So, whether you're neurodivergent yourself, have a loved one with ADHD, or simply want to learn more about this fascinating aspect of human diversity, The Self-Loved Woman Way is your ultimate destination for insights, inspiration, and a renewed sense of self-acceptance. Join us on this transformative journey as we embrace our neurodivergence and thrive in our own ADHD ways.
The Self-Love Woman Way—Where we redefine what it means to be neurodivergent and celebrate the brilliance within each of us.
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