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Two CRUCIAL Practices to Stop an RSD Spiral with ADHD

Today, we're diving into one of the most intense emotional struggles for ADHDers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD. If you've ever felt like a single comment or perceived criticism sent you into a tailspin—overthinking, self-blame, that heavy emotional crash—you are so not alone. I've been there. Recently.
But here's the good news: there's a way out of the spiral.
In this episode, I’m sharing two crucial practices that helped me stop an RSD spiral in its tracks—real talk, no fluff.
One is about embracing radical acceptance (even when it feels impossible), and the other is about regulating your nervous system to calm the emotional storm. These aren’t just theoretical tips; they’re what pulled me back from the edge just days ago.
✨ What’s in it for you? By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit to:
Recognize when an RSD spiral is starting
Interrupt the emotional chaos with simple, actionable strategies
Shift into calm and clarity, even when your brain feels like it’s working against you
If you've ever felt stuck in that rejection loop, this episode is your lifeline. Stay with me, and let's break the spiral together.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
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DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About

How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About
You know that moment when you need to start something—maybe it’s an email, a project, or just loading the dishwasher—but instead, you’re frozen? Like your brain is spinning in circles, screaming just do it, while your body refuses to cooperate?
That’s ADHD task paralysis, and if you’ve ever been trapped in that stuck feeling, you know how frustrating—no, maddening—it can be.
Everyone talks about breaking tasks down into smaller steps or setting timers. But what if those strategies don’t work for you?
What if the usual advice still leaves you staring at your to-do list like it’s written in an alien language?
In this episode, I’m sharing two game-changing shifts that no one is talking about—two mindset tweaks that can unlock your brain and get you moving without forcing yourself through sheer willpower.
Here’s what you’ll get from today’s episode:
The real reason your brain locks up—and why it has nothing to do with laziness or lack of motivation
The two shifts that can help you break free, even when you feel completely stuck
A practical way to apply these insights right now—so you can start moving, without the shame spiral
By the end of this episode, you won’t just understand your task paralysis—you’ll have the tools to work with your brain instead of fighting against it. 
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
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DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0

Podcast Introduction: "ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0"
Do you ever feel like your sense of justice is cranked up to full volume—so loud it’s impossible to ignore? Like you’re walking around with an internal siren that blares at every unfairness, every hypocrisy, every outright attack on basic human rights?
If you’re an ADHD woman, chances are you’re nodding along right now. Justice sensitivity isn’t just something we care about—it’s wired into us. And in times like these, when the news feels like a never-ending stress cycle, that sensitivity can feel overwhelming.
With Trump 2.0 looming large, the fear, the frustration, and the deep sense of this isn’t okay are hitting hard. And let’s be real—there are people who want us to stay frozen in that fear, because an overwhelmed brain isn’t a brain that takes action. So in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to navigate this storm without burning out.
Here’s what we’re diving into:
Why ADHD brains tend to have an intense justice sensitivity (yes, there’s science behind it!)
How to process the big emotions without shutting down—or getting stuck in doomscrolling
What effective action looks like so that you can protect your energy and make a difference
By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a plan: a way to move through the fear, channel that fire inside you, and take action in a way that actually works for your ADHD brain. Because staying in overwhelm isn’t an option, and neither is staying silent.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About

Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About
Have you ever stared at your to-do list, knowing exactly what you need to do—but somehow, you just can’t start? Or maybe you start, but then obsess over every little detail until you feel completely stuck? What if I told you that procrastination and perfectionism aren’t opposites—but two sides of the same ADHD struggle?
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the perfectionism-procrastination loop—why so many ADHD entrepreneurs get trapped in it and, most importantly, how to break free.
Because let’s be real: perfectionism feels productive, but in reality, it’s just fancy procrastination. It keeps you stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, and unfinished projects—while your big ideas sit on the shelf collecting dust. And I know you’ve got way too much brilliance to waste on that cycle.
By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to stop letting perfectionism kill your progress, rewire your brain to take action before the last minute, and start getting things done without sacrificing quality.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How Traditional Therapy Harms ADHDers and What to Do Instead

Traditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists).  In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.
You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.
Be sure to listen!
 
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

When Tasks Feel PAINFUL with ADHD and How to Get Yourself to Do It Anyway

Ever notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks?  Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?
This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.
When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or even having more disorganized space all of which exacerbates our ADHD and can lead to shame (definitely not helpful!).
There are three questions to ask yourself and address to move beyond these blocks that I’ll share so that you can do the painful thing in a less painful way.
Be sure to listen!
In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD.  To learn more and sign up, follow this link:  https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/.  Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet.  Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.
AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs).  Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).
I also shared about my high-touch program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program to help you overcome the inner and outer obstacles of ADHD to move beyond a mediocre life and have both a business and life you love!  Check it out here:https://jenbarnes.org/the-adhd-women-entrepreneurs-mastery-program/
 
Connect with me on social media!
 
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

How to Communicate Authentically with ADHD and Avoid Trouble

To mask or unmask? This is often a serious question that many ADHD Women face - even if only subconsciously.
It’s tricky because when we mask and communicate in neurotypical ways, we more easily avoid getting into “trouble” or rejected with a massive RSD hangover.
But then, we may come across as inauthentic and feel like no one gets us, making us feel alone and even rejected.
I won’t pretend ot have all of the answers here and yet will share ideas on how to navigate what feel like complex social interactions with neurotypical folks for this time in history.
Be sure to listen!
In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD.  To learn more and sign up, follow this link:  https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/.  Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet.  Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.
AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs).  Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

3 Essential Practices to Stop Scary Times from Exacerbating Your ADHD

In work, I have been noticing a lot of people struggling with the major changes going on in our country and challenges in the world.  In this episode, we will acknowledge, validate, and work to understand how this is particularly hard for we ADHD women given our tendency to be highly sensitive, more easily overwhelmed by our emotions and external experiences, and our propensity towards social justice.
Further, we will explore three essential practices to do right now to effectively navigate the challenges surfacing based on world events.
Without this piece, as ADHDers, we may end up more chronically in our protective responses (fight/flight or shutdown), making it nearly impossible to focus and get stuff done with ADHD.
By the end of our time together, you will likely feel seen and validated in your experiences (if you’ve been struggling) and walk away with three essential practices to incorporate to help.
Be sure to listen!
In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD.  To learn more and sign up, follow this link:  https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/.  Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet.  Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.
AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs).  Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

How to Find Clarity and Rewire Your Subconscious to Manifest Your Dreams

In this episode we have another special guest - Oneisha Lee, a manifestation and spirituality coach who helps people rewire their subconscious mind for success.
Together we dig into finding clarity, how to rewire your subconscious mind, and manifestation, all in service of creating the life of your dreams.
She shares two secret tricks for aligning with who you really are and manifesting what you deeply desire.
AND, we explore how this fits in with our lives as ADHD women entrepreneurs.
You’ll walk away with specific strategies to try to help you clarify what you really want, rewire your subconscious, and manifest what you desire.  Be sure to listen!
You can connect with Oneisha on Instagram @spiritualfitbabe.  AND, if you’d like to learn more about how to work with her, send her a DM on Instagram.
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How to Access Your Intuition to take Aligned Action in Business and in Life

In this episode we have another special guest - Kara Bunde-Dunn.  Kara is a spiritual medium who breaks down connecting with intuition in a way that’s easy to both understand and apply to your business and your life.
Together we explore the benefits of connecting with your intuition, how to determine the difference between the voices of fear and your voice of internal wisdom, and the four most common listening languages to tune into your own intuition - your own intuitive wisdom.
When you connect with your intuition or inner wisdom, you have a gentle guide that supports you in taking aligned action in your business and in life.  You will have more clarity, confidence, and even self-compassion and self-love as you tune in to your intuition.
By the end of this episode, you will know how to spot intuitive messages and connect more deeply with your Highest Self.  If you stay until the end you’ll hear more about how you can work with Kara including more about her free e-book which is a guide to help you grow from spiritually curious to spiritually connected.
If you loved hearing stories from Kara about being a medium, then tune into her podcast “The Energetics Podcast” where you will hear stories from mediums about their experiences.
You can also find Kara on Instagram @karabundedunn and access her free e-book here: https://www.karmicleader.com/talktoyourguides 
Kara is a seasoned professional with 25 years of experience in guiding individuals and organizations through pivotal changes. With a rich background in leadership, sales, customer service, marketing, and process improvement, Kara brings a unique blend of corporate expertise and spiritual insight to her work. She holds a Master’s degree in Education and is a graduate of the Inner MBA program, showcasing her dedication to continuous learning and development.
 
As a practicing spiritual medium, Kara is the CEO and founder of Karmic Leader, where she helps people harness the power of energy, frequency, vibrations, and intuition to live their life’s purpose. She is the host of The Energetics Podcast, where she interviews energy experts and delves into the profound impact of energy on our lives. Kara is passionate about empowering others to create two-way communication with their guides and loved ones in Spirit.
 
In addition to her spiritual work, Kara is a keynote speaker, facilitator, energetically aligned coach, and trained educator. She excels in service excellence, talent development, market positioning, scaling businesses, and personal growth. As a corporate executive, entrepreneur, and consultant, Kara is committed to supporting growth-oriented people and brands.
 
Kara is also deeply committed to giving back to her community. She serves on the board of the White Cane Foundation and is passionate about making a positive impact. Kara lives with her husband, Alex Dunn, and their spunky and adorable daughter, Zara.
To learn more about working with Kara Bunde-Dunn please follow her on her Instagram at @karabundedunn and click on her website for resources: karmicleader.com/resources. 
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
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Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.