The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

How Putting Everyone Else First is Wrecking Your Business

As young girls, we women were trained to put others before ourselves.  Couple that with some of the ways we ADHDers leavened to mask and you end up with difficulty prioritizing yourself.
In this episode, we’ll unpack how this happened and what makes it such a problem for your business.  And I’ll share how you can start working on this today so you can keep this pattern from wrecking your business.
Be sure to listen!
If you’re ready to overcome the invisible ADHD obstacles holding you back, then you’re invited to my FREE workshop How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles to Build and Grow a Prosperous, Meaningful Business You Love!  I have been offering this weekly and will offer it a couple of times in December with plans for continuing into January.  Click here to register for this powerful, free workshop!  
AND, if you’re ready to dive deeper and work more closely with me, check out my program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program.  Since it is a high touch, higher tier offer, you are welcome to book a clarity call from that page (towards the bottom) to chat with me to determine if you are a fit for the program and if the program is a fit for you.
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How ADHD Women Lost Our Curiosity and How to Take It Back

Hi, 
I’ve noticed a common pattern in ADHD women - especially those of us over 40 given how we grew up - that negatively impacts our businesses… it’s limited or a complete lack of curiosity. 
I know this pattern well both personally and professionally, and have had to work to take back my curiosity to help my business.
In this episode, we’ll break down how we lost our curiosity, the problems it creates for our businesses, and my strategy for how to take it back.
If you to, have lost your curiosity - your ability to question - you’ll (hopefully) walk away feeling validated and supported and have a way to re-ignite your curiosity to help your business and your life.  
Be sure to listen!
If you’re ready to overcome the invisible ADHD obstacles holding you back, then you’re invited to my FREE workshop How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles to Build and Grow a Prosperous, Meaningful Business You Love!  I have been offering this weekly and will offer it a couple of times in December with plans for continuing into January.  Click here to register for this powerful, free workshop!  
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

The ADHD Masking Trifecta: How to Function When It Stops Working

In this episode, we dig into the ADHD Masking Trifecta - Overfunctioning, People Pleasing, and Perfectionism - that many of us high-functioning ADHD women adopted (often subconsciously as kids) to be able to function with ADHD.  We’ll explore signs that it is no longer working and what to do instead. 
This is essential - especially for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs - both because we need to show up authentically in our business to attract our ideal clients and because masking in this way eventually creates problems with functioning instead of increasing our ability to function (not to mention being disconnected from who we really are).
By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to spot when the masking isn’t working and know what to do to function now.
If you’d like help doing this deeper work, I offer two options for this:
 My high-touch program ASCEND: The ADHD Women Entrepreneur’s Mastery Program includes 12 1:1 coaching sessions with me to do this deeper work.  You can learn more about that here and if you still have questions you can reach out to get on a call with me to discuss if the program is a fit for you and if you are a fit for the program.
One-to-one ADHD Success coaching sessions.  You can apply to meet to discuss 1:1 coaching here.
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

How to Cope with Grief and Loss

Experiencing grief and loss in our culture is often tough because no one really talks about it so few really know how to cope with it or even how to talk to the grieving.  ADHD adds a layer of challenge to this.
In this episode, we explore the unique ways ADHD impacts the grief process as well as how to cope with grief and loss.
Without this work, grief and loss builds up over the years and can come out in unexpected ways - both emotionally and physically.
You’ll walk away from this episode with compassion for your grief journey as well as clarity on how to grieve well to be able to start to string together more and more moments of joy after loss.
If you know someone who is grieving, please share this episode with them for support.
Here are some books I found helpful, thought please read at your own discretion as not all books helpful for me will be aligned or helpful for you:
“Understanding Your Grief” by Alan Wolfelt
“The Afterlife of Billy Fingers:  How My Bad-Boy Brother Proved to Me There’s Life After Death” by Annie Kagan
“You Cannot Die” by Ian Currie (a bit dry at first, considers life after death including reincarnation)
“Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss” by Hope Edelman (while primarily written for childhood loss of a mother, this was still useful)
“It’s OK That You’re Not OK:  Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand” by Megan Devine (recommended by my grief group leader and I eventually read it later in 2019)
 
As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How do we highly sensitive women navigate our big feelings after the election

Hi everyone, 
The day following the election in the States, I connected with a lot of people - clients, friends, acquaintances and more - all of whom were women and some of whom are in the queer community.  I noticed that a lot of us were (maybe still are) rightfully feeling some big and heavy stuff.
To meet the moment, in this episode we talk about how we highly sensitive women navigate our big feelings after the election.
You may be wondering why someone whose focus is ADHD Women Entrepreneurs talking about this.  I go more into this more in the episode.
For now, I’ll say this:
Whether with your business or something happening in the world, high sensitivity and the big feelings that tend to accompany them are both a gift (what probably makes you so good at what you do) and also can create challenges for you and your business so it is crucial to learn how to work with them.
Additionally, much is uncertain in business, as is true right now following the election.  Being able to navigate uncertainty is an essential skill for entrepreneurs.
So in this episode we’ll explore the big feelings, holding space for them, as well as explore what to do to work with the feelings and the uncertainty.
To be fair, this is probably not my most organized episode.  I recorded this on November 7th so am still working through my own stuff with thoughts swirling through my head (I seriously started over four times - though some of that was because my cat Eva was destroying my background screen).
At any rate, my hope is that you feel supported by this episode with some clarity around what to do now AND that you’ll extend me a little grace.
While I didn’t announce it in the episode, one of the things I notice in ADHD Women entrepreneurs that keeps them playing small is invisible ADHD obstacles - things like fear, doubt, overwhelm, feeling not good enough (or too much), and the like.
If you’ve been struggling to really put yourself out there for your business, you may be experiencing some of these invisible ADHD obstacles.
AND, if this is you, you’re invited to attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.
Lastly, in the episode I promised to share a link to Brene Brown’s interview of Dr. Heather Cox Richardson on Awakening Democracy.  It is a two-parter and I highly recommend listening to both, especially if you are having a hard time making sense of where we’re at right now.  Click here to listen.
Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

Why Procrastination Works but Makes Your ADHD Worse

Hey everyone,
In this episode we explore why and how procrastination works to get yourself to do stuff with ADHD and how it actually makes your ADHD worse.
It turns out, there are at least six other ways to work with your brain wiring to get yourself to do stuff that don’t have the same negative effects as procrastination can.
Plus, there are three essential pieces of ADHD motivation to consider that are often overlooked.
By the end of this episode, you’ll know the four essential things you need to help you do things you actually need to do for your business and your life.
In this episode, I also share about one of the biggest motivational challenges many ADHD Women entrepreneurs face - invisible ADHD obstacles.
To help with that, you’re invited to attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.
Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How the Most Overlooked Challenge for ADHD Women Keeps You Small

In this episode we explore a commonly ignored and overlooked challenge many ADHD women face, that keeps you and your business small AND, what to do about it.
 
When ADHD Women Entrepreneurs aren’t aware of and actively addressing this challenges, it keeps you from doing the work you need to do - inside and out - to build and grow a prosperous, meaningful business.  
 
By the end of this episode, you’ll have clarity around the problem, how to spot it when it arises, and what to do about it.
In this episode I share about a lot of ways to do deeper in this work with me which I will share here:
Attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.
Check out my program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program here.
Think you need more 1:1 support and accountability?  Apply for 1:1 coaching with me (Jen) here.
Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.
And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

Mindsets about Your ADHD - Are They Supporting or Damaging Your Business?

Hey everyone, 
Welcome to the Self-Loved Women Podcast. In today's episode of the Self-Loved Woman Podcast, I'm diving deep into the world of ADHD. We'll be exploring the complexities of this type of neurodivergence, including the ongoing debate about whether it should be classified as a disability or simply a neurodivergent trait.
Personal Reflections
I'll be sharing my own experiences with ADHD, as well as insights from various individuals who have been navigating this condition. We'll discuss the personal and societal implications of both labels, and how they can impact our sense of self and our interactions with the world.
ADHD in Modern Society
We'll explore how ADHD is perceived and understood in today's society. From the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD to the public's evolving understanding, we'll delve into the complexities of living with this condition in a world that often doesn't fully accommodate neurodivergent individuals.
Balancing Business and Disability
For those of us who are navigating ADHD in our professional lives, we'll discuss strategies for balancing our unique needs with the demands of our careers. From finding accommodations to advocating for ourselves, we'll explore practical tips and advice for thriving in a neurotypical workplace.
The Impact of Support Systems
The importance of strong support systems cannot be overstated when living with ADHD. We'll discuss the role of friends, family, and mental health professionals in helping individuals with ADHD navigate their challenges and build resilience.
Mindset and ADHD
Our mindset plays a crucial role in how we experience and manage ADHD. We'll explore the power of positive thinking, self-compassion, and self-acceptance in overcoming the stigma associated with ADHD and embracing our unique strengths.
Identity and ADHD
The debate over whether ADHD is a disability or a neurodivergence often raises questions about identity. We'll explore the complexities of this issue and discuss how individuals with ADHD can find a sense of belonging and acceptance within both communities.
 
As we wrap up this episode, I'll share my final thoughts on the topic of ADHD, disability, and neurodivergence. We'll reflect on the importance of open dialogue, understanding, and acceptance in creating a more inclusive society for all.
 
If you’re not already, be sure to follow The Self-Loved Woman Way®️ podcast and share!
 
AND, connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
TikTok: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
 
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
 

How to Not Let the Chaos of the World Wreck Your Business

Hey everyone,
Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast! Today, I'm diving deep into a topic that's been weighing heavy on my mind lately: how to navigate the chaos of our world while staying compassionate and focused on our businesses, especially when you have ADHD.
The ADHD Brain and Sensitivity: As someone with ADHD, I've noticed that I'm particularly sensitive to global events. The constant stream of bad news can trigger feelings of overwhelm and anxiety.
 
Compassion and Business: Finding the balance between compassion and business focus can be tricky. It's important to stay informed, but we also need to take care of ourselves to avoid burnout.
 
Recognizing and Addressing Dysregulation: When I feel overwhelmed, I've learned to recognize the signs of dysregulation and take steps to calm myself down.
 
Effective Ways to Help and Stay Grounded: I'll share some practical tips on how to make a positive impact while staying grounded, such as mindful information consumption, nourishing your body, and regulating your nervous system.
 
The Importance of Nervous System Regulation: Our nervous system plays a crucial role in how we handle stress. I'll talk about the importance of regulating your nervous system and some techniques to help you do so.
 
The Impact of Sleep: Sleep is essential for our cognitive abilities and overall well-being. I'll discuss how to prioritize sleep, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed.
 
Information Overload: It's easy to get caught up in the constant stream of information. I'll share strategies for managing information overload and avoiding distractions.
 
Nutrition and Energy Management: What you eat can significantly impact your energy levels and mood. I'll talk about the importance of nourishing your body and managing your energy effectively.
 
Understanding the Fight or Flight Response: When we feel overwhelmed, our bodies may go into a fight-or-flight response. Understanding this response can help us manage stress more effectively.
 
Movement: Physical activity is essential for completing the stress response and reducing anxiety. I'll discuss the benefits of movement and some ideas for incorporating it into your routine.
 
Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Mindfulness and grounding techniques can be powerful tools for managing stress and staying present. I'll share some of my favorite techniques.
 
Balancing News Exposure and Mental Health: It's important to stay informed, but excessive news consumption can be harmful to our mental health. I'll talk about how to balance news exposure with self-care.
 
I'll wrap up the episode by sharing my final thoughts and key takeaways. Remember, it's okay to take a break from the chaos and prioritize your own well-being.
 
If you’re not already, be sure to follow The Self-Loved Woman Way®️ podcast and share!
AND, connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
TikTok: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
 
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Why Pushing and Hustling is Destructive for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs

Hi everyone! 
Welcome back to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast. Today, I'm diving into a topic that's close to my heart and probably yours too: the impact of hustle culture on ADHD women entrepreneurs.
The Challenges of Hustle Culture
We've all felt the pressure to constantly be "on," to always be striving for more. But for ADHD women, this relentless pursuit of success can be especially challenging. We're already juggling so much, and the added stress of hustle culture can take a toll on our mental and physical health.
The Detriments of Chronic Stress
Chronic stress can have a significant impact on our productivity and overall well-being. It can lead to burnout, overwhelm, and even health issues. For those of us with ADHD, the effects can be even more pronounced.
The Importance of Taking Breaks
You might be thinking, "But I don't have time for breaks!" Trust me, I've been there too. But taking breaks is actually essential for maintaining our productivity and reducing stress. When we give our nervous systems a chance to rest and recharge, we can focus better and be more effective in the long run.
Types of Rest for Better Productivity
There are many different ways to find rest, and it's important to experiment to see what works best for you. Here are some types of rest to consider:
Physical rest: This includes getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and taking breaks throughout the day.
Mental rest: This involves activities that help you relax and clear your mind, such as meditation, mindfulness, or spending time in nature.
Emotional rest: This means taking time to process your emotions and connect with your feelings.
Sensory rest: This involves limiting your exposure to sensory overload, such as loud noises or bright lights.
Social rest: This means spending time with loved ones and engaging in social activities that bring you joy.
Creative rest: This involves engaging in activities that allow you to express yourself creatively, such as painting, writing, or playing music.
Spiritual rest: This means connecting with your values and beliefs and finding meaning in your life.
 
By incorporating different types of rest into our lives, we can find a better balance and avoid burnout. Remember, it's okay to slow down and prioritize self-care. Let's break free from the hustle culture and create a more sustainable and fulfilling way of working.
Thanks for listening!
 
If you’re not already, be sure to follow The Self-Loved Woman Way®️ podcast and share!
AND, connect with me on social media!
Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes
TikTok: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org
 
DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
 
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.