The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way is a podcast for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs who are ready to overcome the inner and outer challenges of ADHD and break free from neurotypical rules and expectations to create a business that works with their ADHD brain. Together we’ll explore our unique ADHD brains and how to work with them effectively, with ADHD-specific tools and strategies so that you can create and build a meaningful and prosperous business (and life) you love. The Self-Loved Woman Way is hosted by Jen Barnes, MSW, LICSW, RYT500, TCTSY-F, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist turned ADHD Entrepreneur coach and educator. She has a passion for working with women who are late-diagnosed or self-diagnosed ADHD as well as those who are ADHD adjacent. Prior to becoming a clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in complex trauma, Jen was an actuarial analyst for nearly four years for a large Minnesota-based company working in retirement plans. She has a Bachelors of Science in Mathematics with a concentration in Actuarial Science and a minor in Computer Science, that started out as an accounting degree with numerous business courses. An entrepreneur herself, she owns and operates two business - one, a full time private psychotherapy practice (since 2014) and the other a Digital Business empowering ADHD women entrepreneurs to move beyond ADHD challenges and create a business that replaces their full time income in 12 months. Jen’s unique blend of education and experiences as an ADHD woman and psychotherapist coupled with her history and experience in business offers a special twist on navigating the world of entrepreneurship as an ADHD woman. Further, her expertise in serving women with complex trauma histories offering an additional, deeper layer to the work of overcoming the pain and even trauma of growing up ADHD in a world not designed for us. This podcast is a fantastic place to embrace your ADHD (yes, even the challenges), explore ADHD specific ways to work and live in this neurotypcial society, and learn ADHD specific strategies for creating and growing your own business so you can have the time and energy to do more of what you love.
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Do you find yourself feeling guilty or even ashamed of your anger? Or maybe you have people telling you not to get so upset? (Or even a spouse who tells you that you have an “anger problem” when the reality is you are the one carry all of the mental load and most of the physical load of your household?)You are not alone. Unfortunately, this is not uncommon for women.
The problem is, our rage, our anger is both valid and necessary. It sends us the message that something isn’t okay and encourages us to take action to address it.
But most so-called “anger management” programs are ineffective.
So in this episode, we dive into the problems people have with anger, why they’re there, what anger really is and how it can help us, and I’ll share my process to effectively work with your anger so it doesn’t plague you or come out when you least expect it in an unproductive way.
AND, at the end I’ll share about how to help yourself with an opportunity for nervous system regulation with ADHD.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
28-DAY CHALLENGE TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH ADHD
This is an affordable challenge that helps you get the result you seek (a more regulated nervous system) with the least investment possible of your money, time, and energy.
Challenges start at the beginning of the month so if registration isn’t open, you can join the priority notification list (on the pop-up)
Sign up for the challenge here: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/
Join my ADHD Professional Women’s email club here: https://jenbarnes.kit.com/email-club
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Apr 16, 2025
Wednesday Apr 16, 2025
Ya know how there are things you could do that you KNOW would help your ADHD, but how you just can’t seem to do them?
If this is you, you’re not alone. This is one of the most common things I hear from ADHD women.
AND, in our last episode we explored an amazing tool from motivational interviewing to help.
BUT what if you tried it and it didn’t work? Or you can’t even get yourself to do it?
That’s what this episode is for! We’ll dive deeper into getting yourself to do the things that will actually help your ADHD so you can focus better and both start and complete tasks with greater ease!
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
28-DAY CHALLENGE TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH ADHD
This is an affordable challenge that helps you get the result you seek (a more regulated nervous system) with the least investment possible of your money, time, and energy.
Challenges start at the beginning of the month so if registration isn’t open, you can join the priority notification list (on the pop-up)
Sign up for the challenge here: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Apr 09, 2025
Wednesday Apr 09, 2025
One of the biggest struggles I see in ADHD women is getting themselves to do the things they know would help their ADHD - things I call “ADHD care”. Given the busy-ness most women, especially ADHD women, experience, plus the way our brains are wired, this makes sense. It truly can be hard to get ourselves to do stuff. AND, it’s possible.
In this episode we’ll explore the challenges of getting yourself to do your ADHD care consistently, what ADHD care really is and how it shifts, and how to get yourself to do it. I’ll even share a tool I’ve only ever shared in my paid programs for you to help yourself do this.
So if you’ve been struggling to do things that would help reduce the struggle with your ADHD, then this episode is for you.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
28-DAY CHALLENGE TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH ADHD
This is an affordable challenge that helps you get the result you seek (a more regulated nervous system) with the least investment possible of your money, time, and energy.
Challenges start at the beginning of the month so if registration isn’t open, you can join the priority notification list (on the pop-up)
Sign up for the challenge here: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Apr 02, 2025
Wednesday Apr 02, 2025
Today, we're diving into one of the most intense emotional struggles for ADHDers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD. If you've ever felt like a single comment or perceived criticism sent you into a tailspin—overthinking, self-blame, that heavy emotional crash—you are so not alone. I've been there. Recently.
But here's the good news: there's a way out of the spiral.
In this episode, I’m sharing two crucial practices that helped me stop an RSD spiral in its tracks—real talk, no fluff.
One is about embracing radical acceptance (even when it feels impossible), and the other is about regulating your nervous system to calm the emotional storm. These aren’t just theoretical tips; they’re what pulled me back from the edge just days ago.
✨ What’s in it for you? By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit to:
Recognize when an RSD spiral is starting
Interrupt the emotional chaos with simple, actionable strategies
Shift into calm and clarity, even when your brain feels like it’s working against you
If you've ever felt stuck in that rejection loop, this episode is your lifeline. Stay with me, and let's break the spiral together.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
28-DAY CHALLENGE TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH ADHD
This is an affordable challenge that helps you get the result you seek (a more regulated nervous system) with the least investment possible of your money, time, and energy.
Challenges start at the beginning of the month so if registration isn’t open, you can join the priority notification list (on the pop-up)
Sign up for the challenge here: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Mar 26, 2025
Wednesday Mar 26, 2025
How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About
You know that moment when you need to start something—maybe it’s an email, a project, or just loading the dishwasher—but instead, you’re frozen? Like your brain is spinning in circles, screaming just do it, while your body refuses to cooperate?
That’s ADHD task paralysis, and if you’ve ever been trapped in that stuck feeling, you know how frustrating—no, maddening—it can be.
Everyone talks about breaking tasks down into smaller steps or setting timers. But what if those strategies don’t work for you?
What if the usual advice still leaves you staring at your to-do list like it’s written in an alien language?
In this episode, I’m sharing two game-changing shifts that no one is talking about—two mindset tweaks that can unlock your brain and get you moving without forcing yourself through sheer willpower.
Here’s what you’ll get from today’s episode:
The real reason your brain locks up—and why it has nothing to do with laziness or lack of motivation
The two shifts that can help you break free, even when you feel completely stuck
A practical way to apply these insights right now—so you can start moving, without the shame spiral
By the end of this episode, you won’t just understand your task paralysis—you’ll have the tools to work with your brain instead of fighting against it.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Mar 19, 2025
Wednesday Mar 19, 2025
Podcast Introduction: "ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0"
Do you ever feel like your sense of justice is cranked up to full volume—so loud it’s impossible to ignore? Like you’re walking around with an internal siren that blares at every unfairness, every hypocrisy, every outright attack on basic human rights?
If you’re an ADHD woman, chances are you’re nodding along right now. Justice sensitivity isn’t just something we care about—it’s wired into us. And in times like these, when the news feels like a never-ending stress cycle, that sensitivity can feel overwhelming.
With Trump 2.0 looming large, the fear, the frustration, and the deep sense of this isn’t okay are hitting hard. And let’s be real—there are people who want us to stay frozen in that fear, because an overwhelmed brain isn’t a brain that takes action. So in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to navigate this storm without burning out.
Here’s what we’re diving into:
Why ADHD brains tend to have an intense justice sensitivity (yes, there’s science behind it!)
How to process the big emotions without shutting down—or getting stuck in doomscrolling
What effective action looks like so that you can protect your energy and make a difference
By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a plan: a way to move through the fear, channel that fire inside you, and take action in a way that actually works for your ADHD brain. Because staying in overwhelm isn’t an option, and neither is staying silent.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Mar 12, 2025
Wednesday Mar 12, 2025
Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About
Have you ever stared at your to-do list, knowing exactly what you need to do—but somehow, you just can’t start? Or maybe you start, but then obsess over every little detail until you feel completely stuck? What if I told you that procrastination and perfectionism aren’t opposites—but two sides of the same ADHD struggle?
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the perfectionism-procrastination loop—why so many ADHD entrepreneurs get trapped in it and, most importantly, how to break free.
Because let’s be real: perfectionism feels productive, but in reality, it’s just fancy procrastination. It keeps you stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, and unfinished projects—while your big ideas sit on the shelf collecting dust. And I know you’ve got way too much brilliance to waste on that cycle.
By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to stop letting perfectionism kill your progress, rewire your brain to take action before the last minute, and start getting things done without sacrificing quality.
🎧✨Be sure to listen!
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
Traditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists). In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.
You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.
Be sure to listen!
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Feb 26, 2025
Wednesday Feb 26, 2025
Ever notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks? Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?
This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.
When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or even having more disorganized space all of which exacerbates our ADHD and can lead to shame (definitely not helpful!).
There are three questions to ask yourself and address to move beyond these blocks that I’ll share so that you can do the painful thing in a less painful way.
Be sure to listen!
In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD. To learn more and sign up, follow this link: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/. Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet. Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.
AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs). Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).
I also shared about my high-touch program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program to help you overcome the inner and outer obstacles of ADHD to move beyond a mediocre life and have both a business and life you love! Check it out here:https://jenbarnes.org/the-adhd-women-entrepreneurs-mastery-program/
Connect with me on social media!
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
Wednesday Feb 19, 2025
Wednesday Feb 19, 2025
To mask or unmask? This is often a serious question that many ADHD Women face - even if only subconsciously.
It’s tricky because when we mask and communicate in neurotypical ways, we more easily avoid getting into “trouble” or rejected with a massive RSD hangover.
But then, we may come across as inauthentic and feel like no one gets us, making us feel alone and even rejected.
I won’t pretend ot have all of the answers here and yet will share ideas on how to navigate what feel like complex social interactions with neurotypical folks for this time in history.
Be sure to listen!
In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD. To learn more and sign up, follow this link: https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/. Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet. Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.
AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs). Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).
Connect with me on social media!
Instagram: @i_am_jen_barnes
Youtube: @Jenbarnes
Learn more about how we can work together: www.jenbarnes.org
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
The Self-Loved Woman Way
WITH JEN BARNES
Welcome to The Self-Loved Woman Way podcast, where we embark on an exciting journey of embracing neurodivergence and empowering ourselves as individuals with ADHD. Join us as we challenge the conventional norms and discover innovative approaches to navigate through life with our unique minds.
In each episode, we delve into the captivating world of neurodivergence, celebrating our differences and uncovering the hidden strengths within our ADHD identities. Together, we'll explore strategies, tips, and tricks tailored to our ADHD way of thinking, helping us unlock our full potential and thrive in a world that often misunderstands us.
The Self-Loved Woman Way podcast offers a safe and supportive space for open reflection. We explore topics such as productivity hacks, organization techniques, self-care practices, and more, all designed to optimize our daily lives while embracing our authentic selves.
Through our conversations, we aim to empower listeners to love and embrace their neurodivergent identities unconditionally. No longer shall we view ADHD as a limitation but as a unique lens that grants us extraordinary perspectives and abilities. Together, we can revolutionize the way society perceives neurodivergence and create a world that celebrates the strengths and contributions of every individual.
So, whether you're neurodivergent yourself, have a loved one with ADHD, or simply want to learn more about this fascinating aspect of human diversity, The Self-Loved Woman Way is your ultimate destination for insights, inspiration, and a renewed sense of self-acceptance. Join us on this transformative journey as we embrace our neurodivergence and thrive in our own ADHD ways.
The Self-Love Woman Way—Where we redefine what it means to be neurodivergent and celebrate the brilliance within each of us.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast.
This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.
If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.